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Ajonye Ondulohi's avatar

Another beautiful episode. I finally went and wrote my nonnegotiables before I procrastinate it.... Again...

Thanks for the push

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Mercy Bello's avatar

Awesome!

I am curious to know what your non-negotiables are.

One of mine was that I wanted a man who wasn’t intimidated by my big dreams because he is secure in his calling in God. I am blessed to be married to that man!

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Ajonye Ondulohi's avatar

Yess... That's a really big deal for me too. I don't want to make my dreams smaller to fit into another person's mind..

Well mine were six. Jesus, Attraction, Purpose, Decision making, Social action and Family.

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Afoma Ezeno's avatar

I listened to the last.🤭

18:35 minutes of real beautiful talk.

Beautiful voice, by the way.

And nice rhyme at the first two sentences.

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Afoma Ezeno's avatar

This is sooo helpful and true, especially the finding yourself first before you find someone else part.

But then again, must you wait to get all these virtues before you ever venture into a relationship. You know, sometimes, the whole of our lives is spent getting values like good conflict resolution. So sometimes, we get those things worked on while in a relationship. Sometimes, waiting to get all these values completely waits a person out.

Sometimes maybe, it’s best we start working on these beautiful values, and embrace relationships if they come to us, while still working on ourselves.

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Afoma Ezeno's avatar

Exactly.

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Ajonye Ondulohi's avatar

Yeah, I had some thoughts on this too... I think there should be a form of threshold.

Like we should jump in when our conflict resolution is still a 1 out of 10 even if we've made progress. But either way asking God's guidance He'll make the timings match while we just keep growing

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